Nov 15A Zillion Little BitsComing out in middle age and the joy of transformation “You HAVE to come play guitar for us… if you don’t come we will find you and drag you in by your pretty pretty hair!” It’s 1999, I’ve just stumbled through a song at a talent show in my…Transgender5 min readTransgender5 min read
Jun 23The First Time I Was A GirlThe first time I was a girl, I was in red. I look good in red. …Transgender5 min readTransgender5 min read
Jul 6, 2022First, There is a MountainThere was suddenly no air in the room. Sarah looked down at her daughter, looking back at her from her pillow, but the girl she had been looking at just a moment before had changed. Child… Sarah thought to herself, but found nothing following it. “Well, Mommy? How?” Where there…Fiction12 min readFiction12 min read
Dec 9, 2021Listening At The EndIn a year lacking so many other things, in 2021 I used music much the same way an inexperienced handyman spreads far too much spackle on a hole in the drywall. This year, I added about 40 records to my vinyl collection, roughly 55 digital albums on Bandcamp, a handful…5 min read5 min read
Oct 22, 2020The Worst Fight I Ever Ran Away FromGuy walks into a bar with a black eye, teeth missing, bone visibly protruding through the skin, says: “You should see the other guy.” I have to confess I am talking out of my ass. Probably you can tell by lookin’ at me — I have never been in…Racism3 min readRacism3 min read
May 29, 2020No PlayingPlaygrounds are closed. I know there are a multitude of larger worries during this pandemic—the health and safety of your family and friends, the fact that cops are STILL murdering black people in the streets. But alongside the grand tragedies playing out in front of everyone’s eyes, there are smaller…Parenting3 min readParenting3 min read
Jan 26, 2020Flowers Are Not VaginasOn naming abuse and cutting toxic people from my life My second favorite thing about flowers is that functionally, they’re the plant kingdom’s way of saying WHO TRYNA FUCK? As a result, they’ve also become OUR way of saying that too. It would be really easy for me to…Abuse4 min readAbuse4 min read
Dec 12, 2019Storms and the Highly Sensitive ChildPlease answer each question as best you can. Answer TRUE if it is true or at least moderately true of your child. Answer FALSE if it has not been very true of your child. My child… …complains about scratchy clothing, seams in socks, or labels against his or her skin. …Fatherhood5 min readFatherhood5 min read
Nov 21, 2019Watch This SongWhy Movies About Music Transcend Their Tropes And Also Totally Rule Our hero approaches the microphone tentatively, almost timidly, gazing out over the audience. In that crowd sits everyone our hero has ever known. …Music8 min readMusic8 min read
Oct 24, 2019Beetlejuice Is Not About ControlChildhood, Nostalgia, and my last Halloween at home — Those among us who have crossed state lines dressed as Beetlejuice know that change comes at you fast. One day you’re putting on a black and white striped suit similar to the one Michael Keaton wore in the 1988 Geffen Company film Beetlejuice and applying corpse paint to your face…Halloween6 min readHalloween6 min read
